Visibility Mode Activated

Last week, I talked about the rollercoaster ride that my life has been. The low lows. The dizzying heights.

Let me tell you what those lows and heights actually look like in real time…

Last week, I was ready to throw in the towel. Call it quits. Give up and give in on my dream of helping others with Inspired Chapter.
I started panic applying for jobs. Planning out how quickly I could find a way to pay off my loans and just be done with all of it. Fade back into obscurity.
This was a low low.

The next day, someone was telling me how they are changing different aspects of their life because they have been working with the material that I create for Inspired Chapter. She said that she interacts with her daughter differently each day, sending her off to school with beautiful I Am Statements. Considering better quality food as fuel for her body. Taking time for self-love and self-care. She is happier. She is stronger. I’ve been watching — it has been a beautiful transformation over the past few months. Seeing it myself is one thing. But when she told me all the nuances of things that were changing, that really brought it home and left me speechless.

The day after that, I learned that the article I wrote for Becoming An Unstoppable Woman magazine was published in the December 2025 issue. That threw me for a loop.
I’ve been quietly over here working like crazy to create different avenues to help people learn to love themselves. I’ve known for a long time that I have needed to actually let people know who I am, where I’ve been, how I got to where I am now, and what I can do to help them with what I have walked through. The doing. Becoming visible. That is the part that I have struggled with most. For me, a person who has lived through an incredible amount of trauma, visibility is terrifying. It feels unsafe.
So, when I learned that I was published, I felt ALL the feels! Proud of myself. Excitement. Joy. Terror. Fear. What-ifs, they all hit me in waves.

The day after that….because it was a literal week of just, You’ve Got to Be Kidding Me moments…I learned that another article I wrote was featured on @FemininePowerWithin on Instagram. An account with over 56k followers. More visibility. More waves of feels.

The week continued with day four. I purchased the digital version of the magazine so that I could see and screenshot my article. I learned that my article was smack in the middle of the magazine AND the picture that they used was a full page photo. A Full Page!
Once again, the roller coaster is rolling up and down those hills. The waves of feels hit me harder this time. Super proud of myself. Super excited to be included in a magazine that features powerful stories of women who have incredible stories. Terrified to the point that I was shaking. Crying. You might say, what are you so scared of? I was saying the same thing to myself. But reality is that my body has done literally everything to keep me safe for my entire life. Almost 49 years of keeping me small, unattractive, abrasive at times, and beloved only to the people that I accept into my circle. This flies in the face of all that my body has done to protect me.

The magazine arrived in the mail the next day and I was able to take a video with the magazine. I had to do it over and over again and even then, I posted it only to my story on TikTok and then let it go.

I’m not ashamed or embarrassed of my features. I have to work through my fear of being seen.
This is my focus for the coming year. I have so much to share. I have such a powerful story that has become the foundation of all that I have built. I want to help others, but I can’t do that if no one knows that either myself or my work even exists.

Bear with me as I evolve — in real time.
Grow with me.
Let’s work together to be authentic, vulnerable, real, and most of all to learn to take up space. We are all here for a purpose. We need to live that purpose and let our lights shine for all the world to see!

Cheers to the Year of Visibility!

Click the In The Media page to read about the features I’ve discussed here, as well as any others that come along.